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March 1st is a day that calls attention to a sensitive subject that takes on many meanings and forms for people. Self-injury, or self-harm, is the act of deliberately harming oneself physically, usually as a mechanism for expressing distress or coping in difficult situations. Self-injury is commonly associated with cutting, but can also refer to burning, scratching, bruising, bleaching, overdosing, some forms of hair pulling and picking, and breaking bones. Binging and purging may also be considered self-injuring behavior.

The reasons behind self-injury and the people who self-injure vary greatly, but one thing to keep in mind is that it does not matter what culture, ethnicity, gender, or age you are: there are people who have injured themselves from all walks of life. Triggering events like bullying, trauma, abuse, school, work pressures, bereavement and difficult relationships can all contribute to the distress one feels that leads them to self-injure, but there doesn't necessarily need to be a trigger for someone to harm themselves. Periods of low self-esteem can also contribute to coping with self-injury.

Stories From Us to You


When I was younger (in my first and second year of high school), I started cutting. I think there was a combination of reasons I started cutting: feeling weak, feeling like I was scared of everything, feeling like I wasn't in control, maybe it was even related to the idea that "everybody does it," and it kind of made me feel cool. I didn't really cut much, or deep, but I still have a few scars from it. When I did it, it really did make me feel stronger. Just the idea that I wasn't afraid of pain made me feel better; it wasn't so much the cutting, but the idea that I could overcome one fear made me feel like maybe I could get over all of them. After about two years, and with the help of a mentor, I realized that the ability to inflict harm on myself wasn't what made me strong or weak. AzizrianDaoXrak

SIAD Stamp by Kawaii-Demonic-Thing


I began pulling my hair out when I was around the age of 13. I've always grown my hair very long for a guy, so it became an easy target when I was stressed or depressed to pull a few strands out. It always began just by running my hand through my hair casually, but it would reach a point where I was actively tugging on the ends fully aware of what I was doing and making sure that I had pulled hair out every time I tugged. At one point in time it was so bad that my scalp was blistered from irritation and I was developing bald spots. People at my school would point it out to me, and that was when I realized how much damage I was doing, and that I had to make some changes. Nichrysalis

Self-injury awareness by neon-fruit


My second youngest sister started cutting when she was 13-14. Never enough to cause real damage, but she does have scars all over the soft side of her arms. I didn't understand what could make people want to self-harm when she was going through it, so I just thought she was attention seeking or acting out but now that we're older I've talked to her about why she did it and why she stopped and she said, "I started because it was the one thing in my life that I could control. I stopped because I found other ways to feel in control." That I can understand because it is the same reason I flirted with bulimia and anorexia. It takes a certain kind of strength and maturity to understand that feeling in control is not the same as feeling secure or confident. LiliWrites

Self Injury Awareness Poster 3 by marigoldwithersaway


As a teenager I had band-aids on most of my fingers, because I was ashamed of my picking. Often though the damage reached too high for a normal band-aid to hide, when that happened, I lied about my picking and said I had bad cuticle eczema. When I met my current best-friend, she knew right away that it was caused by self-harm. She spent enough time with me to see me do it, while watching a movie. She tried to help me by telling me to keep my nails very short and to try to keep my hand busy by doing other things instead. Thinking about it now, this is how I was introduced to the world of Artisan Crafts, through jewellery and then polymer clay. I have not overcome it. It is something I struggle with every day. I feel like a junkie, I know that it will always be a battle but I know now that I have ways to keep it under control. maytel

Self-Injury Awareness - Art... by Self-InjuryClub


There have been many times. Something would happen, I'd let someone down, or upset someone. I've never set out planning to injure myself. It just built up until I couldn't hold it inside anymore. I had to act. Without really considering it, I was hurting myself. I hate pain. I really do. But when I get like that, all I can think about is how horrible I am. I need to be punished. I deserve it. Most days, I know better and I hate those feelings of desperation and turmoil. But when an episode strikes, I just can't think clearly. SingingFlames

Self Harm Awareness by RLE16


It all started in middle school, around the halfway point of seventh grade. I was never very “popular” and was, more often than not, the target of some violent attacks. In the prior years, I had been able to just brush them off as though they were nothing, but something had changed. I simply couldn’t take it any longer. This continued for a few years until it finally happened… The relief was gone. I no longer got the same physical distraction that I so desperately needed and craved. There was simply nothing. I’d like to say that this was when I stopped my self-injury, but that wouldn’t be the truth. I began abusing harsh chemicals and mixing them into my own concoction. It has been this way since freshman year of high school and has persisted. Adhania

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Turning Things Around: Fears vs Dreams


But we're not only writing this journal just to explain what self-injury is and is not. By taking a page from To Write Love On Her Arms' playbook we would like to address what self-injury is motivated by (our fears) and what it can prevent us from attaining (our dreams). The video below is about how much we all have in common with our fears and dreams and that someone is never actually alone in their struggle for understanding and sanctuary.



Last year BeccaJS asked you to share your experiences with self-injury, but this year we would like to ask something different of you. In the comments, we would like you to share your answers to the following questions:

  • What is your biggest fear?
  • What is your greatest dream?


A fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. Some fears are entirely rational, but many are completely irrational and not thought through. On the flip side of the coin, a dream can be an attainable goal (getting a college degree) or be completely unattainable (gaining superpowers).

If you don't feel like sharing your answers to the questions above, we encourage you to respond to others' comments by discussing the rationality of one's fears and how they interfere with their dreams. It is when you begin to question your fears that your dreams in life become graspable.

Make It Orange


Self-Injury/Harm Awareness Day Avatar by Nichrysalis

Self-Injury Awareness Day Skin by Nichrysalis


Thank you for your time, if you would like to further spread the word of self-injury awareness, wear orange March 1st-- whether through online avatars or real life clothing. An avatar and journal skin for the day is available above.
:iconheartorangeplz: Nichrysalis, on behalf of the CR team


Resources, Groups and Organizations



selfinjury.com
befrienders.org
To Write Love On Her Arms
fearsvsdreams.com
selfharm.co.uk
harmless.org.uk
helpguide.org
recoveryourlife.com
kidshelpphone.ca

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2013 pica-ae modified by Nichrysalis | Background image by Subtle Patterns
March 1st is a day that calls attention to a sensitive subject that takes on many meanings and forms for people. This article is to explain what self-injury is and to provide a discussion point for the underlying causes that create the stress that can lead to self-injuring as well as letting deviants share their life goals and help others see their fears for what they are.
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theheek Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
my biggest fear is how much I dislike myself when other people see me in totally opposite way I still feel defective because it was ingrained into my brain from a very young age I have a learning disability and have gone through a lot I am a self mutilator
my other bigger fear is what I am capable of doing to myself
then there is the fear of being left behind or just abandoned
I don't mean to talk a lot so feel free to ignore

2.mygreatest dream-to be happy in my life to have a way to support myself and find someone who I can love and be loved by and the dream to have a child or rather adopt a child to try and shine some light in this dark world we live in
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MagikarPWN Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Student Writer
My fear: Ever going back to my middle school. I would only go back after it has been burned to ashes, or if it is the Annual Purge.
Dream: Meeting my idol, Sonny Moore (Skrillex). He is the reason I'm here breathing and typing this. :heart:
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7sins7virtues Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013
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My fear: losing those I love, going back to hurting myself and failure
Dreams: Being with my girlfriend ;u;
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CreativeNight Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
my biggest fear is failure. and that someone will take away all my dreams: my greatest dream is to write my story. and hope that people will like it.
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FreedomsFrolic Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2013  Student Photographer
Fear: Finding myself completely alone.
Dream: To live and love life regardless of what may happen.
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Biggest fear: Doing something that I'd regret for the rest of my life.
Biggest dream: publish a book and become a zoologist.
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Terrachuu Featured By Owner Mar 9, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Biggest fear:
Failing to save someone when it really matters

Greatest dream:
To make someone happy
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waiting-for-wings Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Aww that's such a sweet dream!
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Terrachuu Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you, I'm blushing. xD I'm just thinking it feels right to treat others the same way you want to be treated yourself you know? Haha.
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waiting-for-wings Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
my pleasure! Yeah i know what you mean it's a great way to think!
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thetaoofchaos Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013   Writer
Sorry I didn't get a chance to give you feedback on this when you noted me. I did read it and watched the video - very interesting. Your correlation between hope and dreams and (presumably) their opposite as expressed in the form of self harm has merit. I have had similar bouts of negative self-expression, and I understand how difficult putting things in perspective can be sometimes. The feelings never really go away forever, but focusing on positive outlets, such as art and friends and pursuing one's dreams can obviously make a difference in how you choose to react to those feelings. :thumbsup:
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Nichrysalis Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
No worries. I received some helpful feedback from people I noted, and some not so helpful feedback as well.

Your correlation between hope and dreams and (presumably) their opposite as expressed in the form of self harm has merit.

I'm glad you agree with this notion! That was my overall goal with the article, was to help people see that connection. :heart:
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flareblitz Featured By Owner Mar 4, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
My biggest fear is that there is nobody on this earth who wants me, and anybody who indicated otherwise is simply lying -- being nice only because it's the socially-acceptable thing to do. I have had this fear my entire life, but now I try not to acknowledge it.

My greatest dream is to, using my skills (if I do have any) at life sciences, help change the world. Maybe not anything groundbreaking, but to be part of that effort is what I want.
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Manda-of-the-6 Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013  Student General Artist
Greatest Fear:
To lose those who love me and those who I love.

Greatest Dream:
To do what I love (drawing, art, writing) as a living (either in animation or as a graphic novel artist).
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WaffleOfTheElements Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013
Fear: That my friend will turn away all the help that she's getting. That it will be my fault that she goes too far.

Dream: To help as many people as I can. I want to be a counsellor for my secondary school, so I can help other people like me and my friend.
And that my friend will forgive me for what I did. It won't be near, or immediate, but that one day she will.
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Nichrysalis Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
:tighthug: My wishes are with you.
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WaffleOfTheElements Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013
:') Thank you :huggle:
Your journal is Amazing! :highfive:
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Tux-Prowess Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Student Digital Artist
My biggest fear is having the universe succumb to the impurity of evil, and evil puts all peace and prosperity, freedom and will, and art and tales to extinction.

My biggest dream is to make sure these things STAY PERMANENTLY in works of art and never introduce themselves to reality again.
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ArtisticallyLiterate Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
My biggest fear is that I'll be left alone. That no one will remember me and I will just be alone.

My biggest dream is to see everyone I care about succeed in life and become what they want to be. I want their dreams to come true.
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dully101 Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I guess my biggest fear would be being utterly and hopelessly overcome/oppressed.
My biggest dream would be to completely overhaul this rotten world. Rid it of rotten culture and bring us all together. An utterly impossible goal. Simply because we are human.
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litecrush Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Student Digital Artist
My biggest fear is that I may never be able to feel like I belong in this world. My greatest dream is to have a long lasting career in music and have my music comfort those who turn to it when they have nothing else, similarly to how I did.
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GrimFace242 Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013   Writer
Biggest Fear: Failure, but not in the general aspect of the word. Failing myself is inevitable. I'm going to make mistakes and I'm going to have regrets. That's unavoidable. I fear failing the people I love. Whether it's failing to protect them from harm or to get them their cuppa in a reasonable amount of time. :giggle:

Greatest Dream: I don't have one. I know it sounds like a cop out, but it's the truth. I really don't have a large scale dream. I'm a day to day kinda guy.
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SwedenLena Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Biggest fear: Being alone or being outframed by people I trusted. I am not good at socialising and don’t know how to talk people. Like example, i've never answered all question that people send me message even tough I still come here almost every day in dA. I am afraid to answer to people that how would they reaction, like I pissed off some people, make them upset, and driven them insane. I'm worry too much. It feels like i hurt people's feeling. It makes me feel bad for being unrespossiable. I also misunderstood people which causes my attitude for being awkwardness in social interaction. I don't always talk to people when it comes in social, i don't have confidence nor courage to talk to them that i am afraid that may hurt people's feeling. But i am thankful to my family for support me when i'm feeling down, or not feeling lonely. Their are always there for me when i needed the most. My family helps me to overcome my fear by talking in private or discuss the problems in family-meeting. It's great for family bonding. It makes me feel a lot better.

Biggest dream: I want to be a great artist and use my art to make a difference in people's lives and sharing it with people i love. Even tough im not good at being social by talking and writting, but when i'm doing in freetime, i like to draw arts that makes me feel better. I don't feel like to writting, even tough it may have some imported mening behind my untold story, but i rather drawing an art than writing a thousand words. (in my opinion). I may cannot reach out with my repel words or how should i explain, but if i express my feelings trough my art, it may tell how hard i've been worked with it that I've been trough. I love art because it lets me escape reality and look through the eyes of others. Its a really comforting form of self expression. It take away my stress. I'm may be a selfish and doesn't tell any logic behind it, but just you know that it does'nt matter if you're not good at anything, as so long that you have someting being able to make happy yourself and sharing it with people you love.

(I didn't have time to write a short comment, so I wrote a long one instead.)
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HiddenWithin Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Biggest Fear: I'll push everyone I love away
Biggest Dream: That I can be the best wife and mom to my husband and daugther
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lady-leliel Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Student General Artist
Fear is failing my degree, not getting a job, being a burden.. Essentially failing at life >_<
Dream? I don't really know..
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FlyAway-555 Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Favourite awareness day of the year :D
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maddicat Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Hobbyist
My biggest fear is failing. Of being a disappointment, letdown, and also of not being cared about. They may seem unrelated, but in my mind failing and being unlovable tie together, living in coexistence, and one would not exist in the same way without the other. It's a fear I face every day of my life. I suppose that that's why I cut myself. Whether as a distraction or a punishment I'm not even sure. I don't even mean to. It just happens. In the end it always makes everything worse.

I have no dreams. I'm not good at anything, and there's nothing in particular I'd like to do. I just waste space.
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dully101 Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Don't think like that. There are people in the world that you can help. There are people in the world that care. And there are people in the world that love you. :heart:
Some advice would be to try and notice the better things. The small things, the good things. You need love? Love yourself, love others. You'll get some in return. Believe it.
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maddicat Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Hobbyist
Thank you.
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dully101 Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Of course ^^
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KuchikiYorume Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
My biggest fear is being completely and utterly abandoned. I fear this even more than I fear vomiting or fire or volcanoes, and that is saying something.
And I know it will inevitably happen. I'm just too horrible of a person to deserve people who care. Besides, everyone knows I'm an attention whore who only spends hours slicing into her arms, biting herself, slamming her head against the wall, and yanking her hair out to get attention.
I'm just trying to prepare for the day when they all leave me. It's not something I like to think about.

My biggest dream is being famous. Maybe then people will actually love me. At the very least, I will exist to the world.
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Nanahuatli Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013
Nothing is inevitable except death. People come and go all the time, so even if some do leave you, there'll always be new people to meet and friends to make. And as tempting as it may seem to see one's flaws as unredeemable, the truth is that most people, good people, do want to care, and will stick around as long as you reach out to them. You have problems, but that doesn't make you a horrible person. Everybody deserves people who care. Work on your writing, or any other hobbies you have, seek help, talk to people. They will find their way back to you and some will love you if you give them the opportunity. People like to love, you know. It's never a matter of "deserving", and you probably think worse of yourself than other people anyway.

You're not alone.
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KuchikiYorume Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
You're hilarious! Pull the other one!
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Nanahuatli Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013
That doesn't really help. :P It's what I've learned from living and watching the people around me, but of course you're free to take it or leave it.

By the way, have in mind that depression is addictive. I'm depressive myself, so I know how easy it is to lapse into negative thoughts about oneself. It's much easier to keep punishing yourself than to try to embrace more positive thoughts. It's your call, but maybe that's what you're doing.

If nothing I say helps, well, I hope you can find someone who does. People who sincerely want to help you are more common than you might wish to think. I'm just not particularly good at it.
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KuchikiYorume Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
"People who sincerely want to help me." Really, this is funny.
Okay... it isn't. Laughable, but not funny, if you know what I mean.

You don't know me and you don't know WHY I deserve every single horrible thing that happens. But if you did... trust me, you'd be just like everyone else.
People who'd love to see me burn.
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Nanahuatli Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013
I know I don't know you, and maybe I wouldn't even like you if I did. I mean, I'm neither very sociable nor very friendly. But most people don't like to see others suffer, they genuinely care about others no matter what they're like. And even I think that everybody deserves to be cared for, unless they enjoy murdering people. Buuut, I won't keep bothering you.
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KuchikiYorume Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Most people seem to like me suffer. And haha, deserves to be cared for, if I deserve it then why isn't it there?
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Nanahuatli Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013
Well, some people are unlucky and live in places and moments with a high density of assholes, but that can be changed. If they enjoy seeing someone suffer, they're certainly not good people. Just because a bunch of bad people get their kicks from your suffering doesn't mean that you deserve it.
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beeka-14 Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Student Artist
My biggest fear has already come true. In January, my parents lost their small-business due to lack of money and not being able to pay their bills. I took this harshly; I would go to the store after school after a horrible day, and forget about it. My pain was taken away, and I wouldn't have to deal with those feelings anymore. Now that the store is closed, I have no way to become happy after a rough day at school. And I also saw my mother's heart break. I saw her break down and cry. I saw her dreams come crashing down, as well as my own.

My biggest dream is to open my parents store back up. That store was my mother's life. And I hate seeing it closed. I want her to be happy again; I want to be happy again.
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XtremeOverdrive Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Student Digital Artist
My biggest fear is that I will become a bad person :shrug: . I also fear losing someone close to me, or being hated by my family or friends.

My biggest dream is that my family and friends will have a happy life, and that I will be able to do what I love for a living.
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Victoriared2 Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Fear- I'm afraid of being hurt. I also have a major fear of people hating me. I don't want to be left. I continuously think my friends are talking about me, and telling one another about something I did wrong.

Dream- I want to be remembered as something. I don't want to be popular, I just want to make sure no one forgets who I am, nor do I want them to think negatively about me. The reason I don't want to be very popular is because praise stresses me. I have no idea why. I can't take it. Not a lot of people praise me though.

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Also, When I had my first boyfriend, I had been hanging around with my friends when I got a text-message from him saying that he wanted to kill himself, and that no one cared for him in his family. I managed to calm him down, tell him he had friends that cared for him, and that even if his family seemed that they didn't love him, they did. That they were probably stressed.

Funny thing is, that he ended up worsening my biggest fear when we broke up. It hurt, but I kept my mask on <3

And now hes an ass. He had no right to call me a 'sped'.
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camelopardalisinblue Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I have a great deal of anxiety issues and narrowing down to one biggest fear is difficult. For a start, I'm afraid that whatever fear I list as my biggest will turn out to NOT be the biggest one, that it's just A fear and that there's something I'm more afraid of. (Oh, the irony.) So to make this easier for myself to answer, I'm going to choose one big fear and one big dream -- and maybe they're not THE biggest, but they're definitely things that impact me a great deal, and I suspect that's the real crux of your question.

Fear:
I'm afraid of being abandoned. Absolutely, gobsmackingly, will-do-just-about-anything-to-avoid-it terrified. The basis is rational (broken home, two abusive parents who both repeatedly abandoned me in various ways, followed by an abusive husband who also abandoned me), but the extreme lengths I go to/have gone to, are not. It's something I face and challenge every day, and although it is improving, it's likely I'll always deal with it to some degree.

Dream:
I want to make a difference, however small. I'm not an ambitious person and my dreams mainly reflect my heart. I want to know that somehow, someone's life is better because I was in it -- that their pain was eased or that they gained some knowledge that helped them to help someone else. My dream is to know that it mattered that I lived, that I survived, that I didn't give up -- that it matters that I am in this world. I guess my dream boils down to knowing that, relevant to my own value systems, I had real worth.
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kathleenpanda Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
i am a self harmer. i think that many should be aware that there is thoughs who are sensitve to things they do and say so ima sare my story with you.

i started to cut in 6th grade. i had people hate me bully me. it continued on through highschool (im in junior year) now in november of 2012 my dad was diagnosed with brain cancer. i started to cut more and more. ive tryed to stop but its hard. ive tryed councleing and other things. its my form of coping and i hate it. PLEASE HELP ME!!!! :emo:
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Forever-Available Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013
Hey, I used to have to fight not cutting myself. Reading and talking to friends always helped me. When 8 had nonfriends I just found someone online. I am always willing to talk to anyone who needs it. And btw, I don't know what's it is like to have a pernt with cancer, but I have had three family members die from cancer in my short life. If you don't want to talk to famoly or friends, you have an online stranger with a heart, right here.
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kathleenpanda Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
hey thanks :) my dad just realized its only been 92 days since he was diagnosed. i have lost many family members from cancer to but usually on my moms side though his mom did have breast cancer twice and survived....

would it be werid if i asked how old u r?
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Forever-Available Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013
I wouldn't find it weird. I am thirteen. Yeah, my dad's side who I don't see anymore is crazy and my mom's side has a bunch of health problems. Yeah. And when I say crazy I mean some of them take pills and by heath problems I mean half of them are dead. Hey, at least they are together. :)
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kathleenpanda Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
true me and my mom are on anti depressents and im only 17
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Forever-Available Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013
My mom also takes pills. And at the rate my life is going, I will probably end up needing them in the not so distant future. I was happy all the time, belive it or not, then my life just went into a downward spiral. I have helped myself a bit by looking to those I care about. Not my family because they don't understand me, but I have friends that can help me though anything. I have friends who would run a hundred miles just to keep me from hurting myself. Honestly, without friends, I was a zombie then school, belive it or not, made me happy cus all you need is someone who has and idea of what you are going through.
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kathleenpanda Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
ya thats kinda y i joined cuz though many dont think it am alone my "fiends" dont know wat i go through
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Forever-Available Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2013
I can garentee you that there is at least one person is your school who has some sort of idea of what you are going through. It is impossable for anyone to even come close to knowing exactly but its nice to have someone who has some sort of idea. You can find someone in real life who knows what you are going through to some degree, even if it takes a little effort to find them.
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